Love starts as a feeling. To last, it must evolve into an action.

Creating a resilient relationship and living harmoniously with a partner over years require skill and intentional effort. For all their rewards, relationships can be messy.

Relationship challenges often involve questions of trust, responsibility, safety, control, and intimacy, and may be magnified by a history of trauma or stress in one or both partners. You may be arguing about finances, chores, extended family, or sex, grappling with important decisions like where to live or whether to have children, or dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. Having children in the home or caring for an aging parent can also reveal or inflame underlying tensions with your partner.

You may feel stuck with the disconnect that has emerged. Perhaps you and your partner have acknowledged your role in the conflict, or made valiant efforts to fix the problem, but nothing has changed. Perhaps you feel that no amount of trying can help.

I will help you and your partner define the relationship you want. Then, with your vision as our guide, we will explore how to let go of unhelpful beliefs about love and your partner, how to better tolerate (and appreciate) the differences between you two, how to restore or deepen emotional and sexual intimacy, how to rebuild safety and trust after a breach, and how to communicate more openly and intentionally.

Disappointment, resentment, and pain should not be seen as a sign that a relationship is doomed. Rather, these are inevitable byproducts of a relationship that matters. I will help you respond more effectively to the hard parts, so that the tough times you experience strengthen your bond and commitment.

I welcome all, including LGBTQIA+ couples.